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January 24, 2021
Many of us start off the new year by making New Year’s resolutions. It’s a great tradition that has gone on forever. Unfortunately, most of the “resolutions” we make we will never keep. The beginning of a new year is the perfect time to think about how we’d like to improve our lives. Don’t set your goals too high, because you are setting yourself up for failure.
One of the first things you should do to start off the new year is to unfriend your ex! Whether it is your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, ex-husband or ex-wife, an ex-lover, or someone who has been negative energy in your life—the old-school way of going cold turkey and cutting off all contact with that person is the best way. The effects of remaining Facebook friends with that person (or even simply keeping an eye on their activities online) can disrupt a person’s ability to heal emotionally and move on with their lives. Delete them now!
Among the top ten resolutions each year are financial goals—such as getting out of debt or saving for retirement. Your financial goals should take top priority. Carrying too much debt is bad for anybody. You should make a concerted effort to pay off all your credit card debt. Then you should consciously try not to pull out your credit card so quickly to pay for something. Think about this: if you had to write a check or pay cash for it, would you buy it? You would probably think twice about buying it and probably not do it.
Saving for your retirement is also very important. The more you put in, the more you will have when you need it. Regular investing is the key. Social Security may not be there when you need it, and it doesn’t pay that much anyway.
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October 25, 2020
Gonorrhea, the STI your grandparents knew as the clap is back—and unhappily, it’s stronger than it ever was. A report from the World Health Organization shows that antibiotic resistance is making gonorrhea—the second most reported STI, infecting 820,000 people per year—much harder to treat.
If you’re not scared of getting gonorrhea, here’s a sobering thought—left untreated, gonorrhea can lead to chronic pelvic pain or infertility. Scientists fear that soon, some strains won’t respond to antibiotics at all. The problem is the rampant antibiotic use.
A CDC study found that one third of all antibiotic prescriptions are unnecessary. Doctors prescribe antibiotics for even mild ailments like the common cold. And the bacteria that causes gonorrhea is resistant to almost every antibiotic.
Things to think about: You should never take an antibiotic unless it is absolutely necessary. You should make sure anyone you decide to have sex with has a medical clearance from all STI’s. Just don’t hop into bed with anyone without them having a medical clearance! AIDs still exists, as does Herpes and Genital Warts. Using a condom helps but is not that reliable.
The CDC is busy tracking resistant infections and developing new ways to target which antibiotic will work best for the specific strain you have.
You have to be wise and cautious!
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October 12, 2020
In a Pew Research Center survey 46% of millennials said their social media accounts had a major impact on their relationships.
You should always make your partner feel more important to you than your phone. You should always shut your phone off when you are spending special time with your partner—like when you are having a meal. Continually checking your phone when you are together is rude!
Social media makes it easy to check on someone’s life. It can also be easy to check on someone’s emails and texts if you have their password. If you feel the need to snoop on your partner, than there is a lack of trust in the relationship. Some people are very private and would be very upset if they found out you were snooping on them. Snooping is never a good idea in the real world or online! Honest conversations about “boundaries” early in the relationship can prevent problems later.
And using Facebook as an open book of your relationship is a big mistake. Even in this time of heightened social media use, very solid, strong, happy couples often choose not to use Facebook except for trivia.
Honest conversations about your social-media boundaries early in a relationship can prevent surprised later.
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October 12, 2020
You’ve survived the divorce and now you’re concerned about how to make your settlement last. You know the amount of your divorce settlement—but what you don’t know is whether it will be enough to cover your day-to-day living expenses, support your family and have enough money for the rest of your life! You have to make sure that you don’t outlive your assets. How can you ensure that you can keep the assets you most treasure, rather than having to sell them to survive?
Living alone after your divorce may be difficult—especially if you had a long marriage—financially and emotionally. Most women can expect to spend at least a third of their adult lives on their own. Because of this, they must get savvy about saving and budgeting. Saving sounds simple, but first you have to have enough income to save some of it.
The first step you must take is creating a budget. These are some ideas of how to create a budget:
1. Make a list of the budget categories that apply to you;
2. Go through your checkbook for the past year and list each check under its category;
3. Go through your credit card bills and do the same thing;
4. Decide where you need to cut back and which ones you expect will increase;
5. Adjust and readjust the figures until your monthly budget equals your monthly income.
If your income doesn’t cover your expenses, then having your list will help you decide where you need to cut back. If you consistently exceed your budget, then you will have to adjust your spending habits or find a way to increase your income.
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October 4, 2020
Do men really cheat on their spouses more than women do—or do they just get caught more often? Men have always been the ones who are tagged as the “cheaters”—but today the genders are almost equally unfaithful—23% for men and 19% for women according to a professor of family relations at a University in Ontario.
The reasons for infidelity differ. For women it’s sexual incompatibility and money that makes a woman more likely to cheat. And because men are easily aroused and more responsive to flirting, they are more likely to stray.
It is always assumed that people cheat with someone better looking than their current partner. This may not actually be true, according to survey by Victoria Milan, a dating site for married people looking to have an affair. The website polled over 4,000 of their members and found that most people using the site consider their significant others to be more attractive than their affair partners.
Interestingly, the men polled said they consider their significant others superior to their affair partners in other ways as well. Only 30 percent of men cheated with women younger than their current partners, and only a quarter of the men found their mistresses more interesting or more in shape than their partners.
So why cheat at all? Men admitted that they found their mistresses to be more passionate, better listeners and more caring than their significant others.
Over half of the females polled also found their significant others to be more attractive than their affair partners, but 50 percent said their lovers were in better shape. Similar to the men polled, women reported that the person they were having an affair with listen better and are more passionate than their man at home. And a whopping 89.6 percent of the women indicated that the man they’re cheating with makes them feel more appreciated than their significant other.
Some reasons men cheat are that they no longer find their spouse attractive, boredom, a need to escape, and they couldn’t resist the other woman. Same goes for women who cheat. Infidelity is usually more a symptom of bigger issues.
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September 7, 2020
People who own dogs live longer! They’re healthier. They’re calmer. Their children are less prone to allergies.
Dogs aren’t big on social distancing. They lick and sniff everything and one another. Conversation, friendships and even romance between owners can often be the result.
A dog’s love is unconditional. Once you have a dog, you can’t live without one!
Living in a home with a dog may be linked to healthier psychological development in young children, researchers report.
A study in Pediatric Research made by Australian scientists, found that after adjusting for other factors, compared with children without dogs, those who had them were about 30 percent less likely to have behavior problems, 40 percent less likely to have difficulty relating to their peers and 34 percent more likely to show pro-social behavior. There was no association of dog ownership with emotional difficulties or hyperactivity.
The study suggested that the benefits of dog ownership started very early in life. “We are not saying, ‘Go out and get a dog’…That’s a really important decision. Owning a dog comes with responsibilities and costs. But the benefits outweigh the costs.”
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June 18, 2020
To divorce or not to divorce, that is the question! Many women ask themselves this question when they find out their husband has been cheating on them. Being the good wife and standing by a cheating husband is not what women want to do anymore. This despicable behavior is all too common and accepted in our society.
Why don’t men understand that staying faithful is smart and sexy? Why don’t men understand that straying when you’re a married man is exhibiting a lack of character? When are men going to think about what they are doing to their families and keep it in their pants!
Unfortunately, there is a double standard in our society. What’s good for the male is not good for the female. The only place a husband is going to feel it is in his bank account. Every woman must be prepared for divorce—just in case. “The Divorce Survival Guide for Women” will prepare you “just in case.” www.preparefordivorce.com
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May 30, 2020
Marriage is an emotional, physical, and financial commitment that we make to a person that is supposed to last forever. The dissolution of a marriage, divorce, is like a death. It is as emotionally devastating as the death of a parent. It is the death of your relationship. In coping with divorce, you should treat the divorce emotionally the same way you would grieve for someone who died.
- Consider counseling if you feel you need help with the emotional aspects of divorce and the changes it will bring to your life;
- Consider a support group for yourself and your children if you are the parent who has custody;
- Be careful about making major decisions immediately after the divorce or separation;
- Take care of yourself, do little things to pamper yourself;
- Do not be afraid to feel badly. Some depression is normal—but be careful not to share your negative feelings with your children. You should seek professional help if you feel it is getting out of control;
- Avoid over indulging in drugs, alcohol, or food;
- Take the time to accept your part in what caused your relationship to fail. It is rare for one person to be solely at fault in a divorce. Forgive yourself and work on forgiving your spouse. Trying to take some of the anger out of the situation will help you deal with details that have to be taken care of in finalizing a divorce.
Although coping with divorce is devastating, not all aspects of a divorce have to be negative. Consider the divorce as an opportunity to rediscover yourself. Take time to do things that you may have enjoyed doing but stopped doing because your spouse did not enjoy them. Reconnect with friends you have not seen or heard from in a while because your spouse did not like them. Find new friendships. Divorce is not just an ending it is a beginning. Accept mistakes you made learn from them and then move on.
As trite as it sounds, all things do get better with time. It is hard to believe when you are going through the anger and disappointment of divorce. It is difficult getting used to being alone again or being afraid that you will always be alone. One day when you are doing some routine task, you will realize that you are happier now then you were when you were living in a dying relationship. No one wants a divorce, but it is better than an unhappy marriage.
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April 29, 2020
Exercise is the “fountain of youth.” Aerobic exercise builds endurance and strengthens the heart. Exercise creates new brain cells and can help ward off cancer and diabetes. Strength training builds muscles—and you are never too old to build muscles! It can also keep you from accumulating the wrong kind of body fat.
1. Exercise can curb your risk of cancer by indirectly keeping off excess weight. Weight gain is associated with quite a few cancers.
2. Exercise creates new brain cells. Seniors who are more fit perform better on cognitive tests to the point where they’re sometimes no different than young adults.
3. Exercise boosts insulin sensitivity. Insulin is a hormone that allows blood sugar to enter the body’s cells, where it is stored or used as fuel.
4. Weight training or resistance training strengthens muscles and bones.
5. Sitting can kill you. People who sit for the majority of their day have higher mortality rates than people who don’t.
6. Aerobic exercise lowers the risk of a stroke.
7. Aerobic exercise cuts the risk of a heart attack by 20 to 35 percent in most studies.
8. Weight-bearing aerobic and strength-training exercise three to five days a week can increase—or slow the decrease in—the density of spine and hip bones.
9. Moderately active people have a 30 to 40 percent lower risk of type 2 diabetes and the metabolic syndrome than inactive people.
10. Active people are 15 to 25 percent less likely to be diagnosed with depression than inactive people.
11. Forty minutes of moderate-to-vigorous aerobic exercise three to five times a week lowers blood pressure 2 to 5 points.
12. If you have arthritis, moderate-intensity, low-impact exercise for 30 to 60 minutes three to five times a week can reduce pain and disability.
13. Seniors who are physically active have about a 30 percent lower risk of falls.
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April 7, 2020
People all over the world, for thousands of years, have been meditating. It is not necessary to pay the David Lynch Foundation who promotes TM meditation $1,000 to learn to meditate. Even though they tell you their meditation is different, it’s not. Meditation is meditation. It’s just a way for them to charge $1,000 for their “course” which I felt was disappointing and a lot of “nothing” and a total waste of my time and money. There is really nothing difficult to learn to meditate. And meditation is nothing mystical.
There are a lot of benefits from meditation. There are health benefits—from stress management to helping with high blood pressure, heart disease and depression. It’s also a good habit to practice in your everyday life. It helps center you.
Meditation is basically the process of using a word or phrase to help you focus (mantra) that you keep repeating in your mind while closing your eyes. You can chose any word or phrase that you should use every time you meditate. Or you can use the traditional OM mantra (idealmantra.com), which you chant. You are cutting through your brain’s “chatter” and finding focus. It is normal for your mind to wander while you are trying to focus and meditating. If this happens, and it will, just think of your mantra and continue.
So to begin, put the Insight Timer meditation app on your iPhone or iPad. Set it for 20 minutes or more if you wish (I like to also set an interval sound at 10 minutes so I know I am half way there). Find a comfortable place to sit (I like sitting at my desk), start the timer, close your eyes and begin to repeat your mantra in your head or chant the OM mantra. Twice a day about the same time every day is optimal, but once a day if that is all the time you have is fine.
Happy meditating!
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